by Lizzie Klein
Do you have a saying that your family lives by? In season 2 of the Pine Cove Podcast, we sat down with Craig “Dutch” Langmeier and Carrie “Dutchess” Langmeier to talk about some of the household phrases that have guided their parenting, marriage, and life relationships throughout the years. Just like their marriage check-in, this interview offers some great, practical advice for all of us—even those without kids. Check out some of Craig and Carrie’s wisdom below, then listen to the podcast episodes at the link below!
Very few problems go away on their own—in fact, most get bigger over time. That’s why it is so important to face conflict head on instead of putting it away and pretending it isn’t there. The truth is you will face disagreements, whether that be with your children, spouse, coworkers, or friends. But the quicker you confront them, the quicker you will be able to walk in the freedom that comes with true reconciliation.
So how do you do that?
Would you call yourself a “peacemaker”? Or a “peace-faker”? Sometimes we get the wrong idea about peace and think that avoiding conflict is the way to unity. However, the Lord calls us to engage in the uncomfortable. If being known is the goal, that involves really being honest with one another. The reality is that if you don’t deal with it now, you will probably hold bitterness. And the best way to keep a little thing from becoming a big thing is to compassionately walk into hard conversations with the people you love.
So how do you do that?
Work hard, play hard. This saying is often thrown around without much thought, but the truth behind it is so valuable! We want to be contributors, not just consumers of the world around us. When we learn the value of hard work, we not only gain a stronger work ethic, but we also gain self-confidence and gratitude that will transform our view of our household, job, and community. Teaching your kids to find meaning in even the little things will produce in them a sense of responsibility that will serve them for years to come.
So how do you do that?
Positive reinforcement might make you think of dog training or even a science class that you took in middle school, but did you know that it actually works with people? When we reward people for their behavior, it really does encourage them to continue doing it. Finding ways to uplift your coworkers, spouse, or children when they care for you well will not only make them feel good, but will keep them coming back for more!
So how do you do that?
Have you ever had someone unexpectedly pull you aside to tell you something hard? Were you left feeling overwhelmed and underprepared because you just didn’t see it coming? That is the whole idea behind giving someone time to prepare their heart. Some conversations are just plain hard, and if delivered at the wrong time they can create even bigger problems in the future. A great way to avoid a defensive, emotional, or hurtful reaction is to give someone time to prepare their heart for what you need to say.
So how do you do that?
Posted Oct 19, 2022
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